Saturday, September 30, 2017
An Argument Against Prophesy
Monday, September 25, 2017
Saturday, September 23, 2017
A Cis-guide to not being an asshole to trans people: Series
This is a message to my fellow cis people. I know many of you out there do not understand trans issues, or simply don't agree. I've heard arguments from "it ain't natural" to "don't mutilate yourself"...and although I know most of you are not trying to be malicious, it really doesn't help.
I would like to present to you a Cis person's guide to not being an asshole to trans people. Over the next few posts I will be covering topics such as "what not to ask/say to a trans person", "why you shouldn't misgender trans people (even if you don't agree), " a Cis-guide to trans terminology", "Snowflake genders: what are they and why should I respect them?", "responding to common arguments against trans* issues" and more.
My purpose is not to make anyone feel disrespected, or silenced, but to provide helpful material to cis people of all backgrounds and opinions.
Cis #1. The Protester: If your purpose is to change transgender people's mind, wouldn't it be best to learn how to speak and relate with them? After all, if you piss someone off, they won't listen to what you have to say.
Cis #2. The loved one: maybe someone in your family or friend group just come out as trans*; If you are someone who just doesn't know what to do with all of this new gender stuff, and need an honest explanation of what all of this is, and how to navigate this new material respectfully, this is the perfect series for you!
Cis #3. The Believer:
(in preface to this argument, I would like to say that I am a person of faith, and a complete supporter of trans issues. I personally do not believe that trans people are sinning, or condemn their identities. I am, however, speaking to an audience that might, and since I grew up with this idea, I would like to respect their points of view and appeal to our common ground)
so your faith says no, your political party says no, and you've made up your mind. I'm not here to change your opinions, but to appeal to your call by your faith to love and show compassion on humanity regardless of their "sins". As someone who is also of spiritual origin, and someone who has become an ally of the trans community, I can tell you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with loving and even coming to support those you don't agree with. There is even room to reconsider your positions to welcome trans people into your communities of faith. I personally came to a discovery that trans people are not sinning, or condemned by God, but even if you can't reconcile, I believe it's your duty as a person of faith to love and respect all of humanity regardless of your disagreements. I hope that in exploring the questions you may have about this community, you can come to the conclusion that these people need love and respect and protection from strong allies, and find compassion in your heart for them.
Cis #4 The Troll
I wrote a whole paragraph on you...then deleted it because I realized there is nothing I can say to stop people like you from being shitty. So if you continue to read my articles, just know I will delete all of your comments without replying.
Cis #5 The Ally
You guys are AWESOME. Sometimes we mess up...but the important thing is, we are trying and we are willing to correct ourselves. This is why I'm scared to write this! I am a Cis female, and although I have studied in depth, and I'm even in a relationship with a trans person, that doesn't mean I won't say something stupid. As we go on this journey together, we have to be willing to let our trans family correct us. There are 3 things we can do to really ally ourselves:
1. Elevate trans voices! In my series I will be sharing material from trans activists after each article. It's not my goal to speak over trans people, but sometimes we have to step in to crack cis-heads when it isn't safe for trans people to, that's why we,
2. Speak out when they can't. Sometimes, trans people can't speak. Sometimes we have to step up because it isn't safe for a trans person to do so. It may be illegal, unsafe or maybe they are not present, or they are not out. Other times, maybe they don't want to deal with defending their existence all the time! Not all trans people want to/ feel comfortable with confronting issues.
3. ASK. Not all trans people feel the same! So, if you have a trans friend, make sure to ask them how you can help best.
If you are a trans person reading this: please let me know if I say anything out of turn, and just know that if I use language or terms that are offensive or wrong, it's because I'm trying to "speak their language". Let me know of any voices I can elivate, any issues I could discuss, and anything I need to correct.
Stay tuned snowflakes.